Tuesday 30 April 2013

What Oprah Had To Say About Men

Realizing there are few points true in Oprah's saying...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. 
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
"If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't  'be friend'  . A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle" 
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. 
Don't stay because you think 'it will get better'. 
You'll mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you. 
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends seperate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.
Don't ever make him feel he is more important than you are.
Even if he has more education or in a better job. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. 
Never borrow someone else's man. 
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

All men are not dogs. 
You should not be the one doing all the bending, compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships, there is nothing cute about baggage.

Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you.
A relationship consist of two whole individuals.
Look for someone complementary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun, even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.Right.
When a man always knows where you are, and you are always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. 
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Make him miss you sometimes.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know).
You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Sunday 28 April 2013

Parompong 2013 (Kepada Kuda Kukembali)

EFI Sea Games Qualifier #1.
Ini adalah kompetisi pertama gue setelah vacuum cukup lama dari perkudaan.
Berbekal persiapan yang singkat namun dengan niat yang besar, berangkatlah gue ke Parompong. Tentu ga sendiri, kompetisi kali ini gue ditemenin Jeanne Eureka, ini anak emang enak diajak kemana-mana :)
 
Parompong's
On preparation
Parompong's
 
Feeding him

The Arena
                     
Fransisca Okada on Zackrie


Jeanne Eureka

Indeed, I cannot stopped too long of riding.  
Thank You. Anto Binarto, greatest instructor, Jeanne Eureka, Papa, Groomers, Lovely Zackrie, All Crew

Pesan moral: Jangan Tinggalkan Kuda~


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Black bird singing in the dead of night. 
Take this sunken eyes, and learn to see all your life.
You were only waiting for this moment to be free.

Tuesday 23 April 2013

Sekalian Kenalan

As a new blogger, kayaknya ini cara terefektif untuk memperkenalkan diri. Mumpung pertanyaan ini belom lama nge-hype juga di kalangan blog temen-temen gue. 

1. Berasal dari bahasa mana nama (pertama) Anda dan apa artinya?
Nama pertama: Fransisca. Konon kabarnya ada seorang biarawati baik hati bernama Suster Fransiska, ketika nyokap gue mengandung diri gue, beliau pesen supaya nanti gue dinamain dengan nama yang sama dengan namanya.

2. Video klip (musik) apa yang paling berkesan dalam hidup Anda, dan kenapa?
Astuti-karena gue kira drummer nya buta, ternyata engga. Maapin mbak.

3. Apa penyanyi dan judul lagu yang paling lama ada di playlist (iTunes, Winamp, WMP, dll) Anda (belum pernah di-delete dari dulu)?
The Beatles-The Long And Winding Road

4. Apakah Anda pernah ke warnet? Kalau ya, pengalaman apa yang paling berkesan saat ke warnet?
Pernah. Pengalaman berkesannya adalah waktu ke warnet bareng temen-temen SMP di warnet depan sekolah. Itu kita alay banget, bikin berisik sewarnet, sok-sok gaul di warnet, pake acara sok ngutang biar gaul, padahal cuman mau buka friendster. Maapin mbak Weni (penjaga warnet yang sabar, lebih cocok jadi guru TK).

5. Benda apa yang paling sering Anda tatap di kamar Anda?
Bagian bawah tingkat dua tempat tidur gue, karena gue tidur di tingkat yang bawah.

6. Jika Anda seorang jenius dan memutuskan untuk membuat sebuah invensi, apa yang ingin Anda temukan?
Mobil terbang sama sopir gratis.

7. Benda apa yang terdapat dalam anime/manga/game yang paling ingin Anda miliki?
Doraemon.

8. Mana yang paling Anda percayai: ramalan zodiac, ramalan shio, atau Primbon? Kenapa?
Zodiak-karena Primbon ga up to date, sedangkan shio cuman ada setahun sekali.Zodiak itu up to date, seminggu sekali ada, bahkan sekarang ada yang tiap hari.

9. Cara mati seperti apa yang paling Anda takuti?
Mati berdiri mungkin.

10. Jenis makhluk gaib/makhluk halus apa yang paling Anda takuti dan kenapa?
Kunti, karena di rumah ada.

11. Buku apa yang ingin sekali Anda lihat diadaptasi jadi film/serial?
Buku Kumpulan Resep Sisca Soewitomo, pasti bermanfaat.

12. Kalau Anda sedang mengisi ini sambil mendengarkan musik, lagu apa yang sedang Anda dengarkan?
Landon Pigg-Falling In Love At A Coffee Shop

13. Apa hal tergila yang bisa Anda imajinasikan sekarang juga?
Pergi ke tempat yang kiri kanannya padang rumput, semacam di Swiss gitu, terus naik mobil pick up tua yang bawa jerami, terus nyanyi-nyanyi lagu Beatles bersama seseorang yang tepat.

14. Hewan apa yang menurut Anda sebaiknya tidak perlu ada di muka bumi ini?
Lalat. Okelah dia pengurai, tapi kan abis mengurai dia langsung nemplok ke makanan. Cuci kaki dulu lah

15. Bayangkan Anda memiliki sebuah band terkenal. Apa genrenya dan nama apa yang akan Anda beri pada band itu? Anda akan memainkan alat musik apa di band itu?
Nama: Jammin. Genre: Pop Jazz. Main: Gitar

16. Benda apa yang Anda koleksi?
Stiker

17. Tempat apa yang paling ingin Anda kunjungi sebelum mati (sebut 3)?
Paris, Yerusalem, Raja Ampat

18. Hewan apa yang paling ingin Anda lihat secara langsung (sebut 3)?
Beruang Grizzly, Kucing Spinx, Jaguar.

19. Penemuan apa yang Anda anggap paling jenius?
Listrik

20. Benda apa yang paling-tidak-tega-dan-tidak-akan-pernah Anda buang (satu saja)?
Kaos Simba si Singa Putih yang gue pake pas umur 5 tahunan gitu.